$re = '/\([^()]{1,20}\)(*SKIP)(*FAIL)|,/m';
$str = 'Get index of this comma, but (not this , comma). Get other commas like, or ,or, 1,1 2 ,2. (not this ,) BUT (get index of this comma, if more than 20 characters are inside the parentheses)';
preg_match_all($re, $str, $matches, PREG_SET_ORDER, 0);
// Print the entire match result
var_dump($matches);
Please keep in mind that these code samples are automatically generated and are not guaranteed to work. If you find any syntax errors, feel free to submit a bug report. For a full regex reference for PHP, please visit: http://php.net/manual/en/ref.pcre.php